Why do we rely on others for happiness?

Topic of discussion today: happiness.

Oooh this might be one of my favorite things to talk about. I LOVEEEE talking about how to grow and experience life in different ways. Happiness stems from those two things. One of my New Years resolutions was to create my own happiness. Let me tell you why:

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My wonderful mamma.

Humans are emotional beings. From the day we are born, we rely on our parents to take care of us. Parents remedy all of our emotions, just trying to get us through each day. They give us the world (hopefully) and then, before we know it, 13 turns to 30 and we have to deal with all of this stuff. Luckily for me, I’m only 20, so that stuff is pretty minuscule. None the less, emotions are a part of life.

So, we go through life depending on other people. We expect our teachers to make us smart, our coaches to make us fast, our friends to create fun memories, and our parents to teach us right from wrong. When you think about it… life is a whole lot of dependence on other people, because who really knows what the heck we are supposed to be doing half the time anyways.

As we get older, our responsibilities grow and we humans start to take matters into our own hands. We read books on our own to learn new things, coaches disappear and we have to workout by ourselves, our friends start to grow up and make memories with other people. For most, the older you get the more independent you get. But where is the change in our emotions, our happiness? If we are starting to do all of these other things on our own, shouldn’t we learn a new way to manage our emotions?

This is where emotional self-reliance comes into play. Doesn’t it just sound.. idk.. PERFECT! The first step to taking happiness into your own hands is realizing that it is your own job to fulfill your needs. People are unreliable. Its the worst to admit, but so so true. Even the most reliable person you know isn’t always 100% reliable, right? The only person you can depend on when it comes to your emotions and YOUR HAPPINESS is YOU YOU YOU!

51OnErKGDtL._SX315_BO1,204,203,200_Not sure about y’all, but I find this so liberating! Like hi, I am me and I am choosing to be happy, to see the positive in everything, and love life! One book that has seriously helped me remedy some parts of my life is You Are a Badass by Jen Sincero. This book… ITS AMAZZZINGGGGG! Jen has such an easy way with words. She points out something that majority of the population struggles with, then gives the quickest, easiest fix. Sometimes I wonder why we aren’t all that good with words, thoughts, life, etc. She is brilliant.

Essentially, this post is to remind all of y’all out there that there are too many things out of our control to get upset about. But one thing we can control is our perspective on life. Choose a positive outlook and choose to be happy. Making that conscious choice everyday will radiate. People are attracted to happy, positive people. Be that person!

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